10 Easy Ways to Stay Calm in the Face of Chaos

Chaos is all around us.  It is in the news, our personal lives, our communities and globally everywhere we look.  It is easy for us to get bogged down with overwhelm during times when everything feels like it’s falling apart. 


When chaos is occurring you can easily feel like you are in the middle of a hurricane.  During those times, become like the palm tree that stays centered and grounded in the intensity of the hurricane.


1.      Stay physically active. 

Physical activity sends your energy into the lower half. Go to the gym or for a walk or run outside.  It helps the adrenaline running through your system to have a way to process the fight, flight or freeze feelings you may be having.


2.     Take a shower.


3.     Put on music that you love.


4.     Surround yourself with a friend or a friends.

Having a friend who loves and cares about you is very important to building your sense of safety and security in the world.  Take a friend out to lunch or find something in town you both enjoy doing and go out.  Meeting up can be as simple as going for a walk, meeting in the park for a picnic, or attending a yoga class together and then meeting up for a drink afterwards.


5.      Talk it out. 

Let what burdens you are carrying off your chest with a trusted friend, counselor or family member that you can trust.  When you feel you can’t share something because there is too much guilt or shame around it, you need to share it with someone you can trust. 


6.      Let yourself cry.

Crying is a huge release and a form of surrender.  When you cry, you don’t carry the burden of holding onto what is hurting you with so much intensity any longer.

Invitation:  When you feel like crying, let it all out and don’t try to repress it.  If you need help, watch a movie that will help you cry, such as, “



7.     Journal. 

A journal is like a free counselor.  You can tell it anything and it won’t talk back. Journaling is a great way to let everything running haywire in your mind to get grounded on paper.  It’s writing therapy.

Invitation:  Express your feelings freely on paper.  If you feel angry about something, you can write in big letters and explanation marks if you need to, such as “I FEEL SO ANGRY!!!”  Use whatever words you want to use to describe how you are feeling and don’t edit.


8.      Stay connected to your breath.

Take deep breaths down into the lower half of your body. This activates your parasympathetic nervous system to create a state of calm and relaxation. 

Invitation:  Breathe in for the count of 4 and breath out to the count of 6. 



9.     Practice mindfulness.

Mindfulness is awareness of the present moment without judgment.  When you are in the present moment, you notice subtly with greater ease, colors with vibrancy, and your senses overall feel heightened and more alive. 

Invitation:  Taste a piece of chocolate slowly, then even more slowly.  Allow yourself to experience the sensuality and pleasure through enjoying the chocolate’s aroma, texture and flavor.


10.  Rest and restore.

When you engage in an act of loving kindness toward yourself through a full body massage, chair massage, or energy healing such as Reiki, you allow for openings, healings and transformation to take place.

Invitation:  Get a massage, energy healing, or take a restorative yoga class.